FIVE INDICATORS THAT SHOW YOU A MANIPULATOR

FIVE INDICATORS THAT SHOWS YOU A MANIPULATOR

A manipulator is someone who controls you or influences you against your wish in order to achieve his or her selfish purpose. Also, a manipulator is anyone who uses cunning or sly approach: lies, deceit, half truth, false story telling to surreptitiously maneuver you into doing something that will make them achieve their own selfish interest. A manipulator is a con artist or a crafty shyster whose ultimate goal is to trick you in order to defraud or swindle you. Other synonyms for a manipulator includes: con artist, a trickster, a scammer, a fraudster, a swindler etc. 

CHARACTERISTICS OF A MANIPULATOR 

1. They are very confident in themselves. Sometimes they exhibit overconfident in what they say and do in order to gain your trust.

2. They are good story tellers. They can tell you one story in one thousand ways and you will still be tempted to keep listening to them.

3. They are sweet talkers. They can sweet talk you into doing anything they want you to do. With their sugar-coated tongue they can sweap you off your feat in one moment if you are not careful.

4. They are very lovable, easily relatable and also charismatic sets of people. You will always love them the first time you meet them. 

INDICATORS OF A MANIPULATOR 

1. They will do anything to gain your trust and make you trust them wholeheartedly. When people unnecessary try to do everything possible to impress you and gain your attention at all cost, just know that you are dealing with a potential manipulator. 

2. When they say one thing repeatedly over and over again. When they emphasize one thing again and again, trying so hard to convince you that what they are saying is the truth. It means what they are telling you is nothing but a big fat lie. They are just trying to outsharp you. Know that the truth is usually short, simple, straight forward and precise.

3. When they always relate to you the riches to rag story that does not really add up, there is a 90% possibility that they are trying to swindle you. They will always tell you that they were once rich ( or a close member of their family was once very rich) but life happened and they lost their wealth. That is a big lie be careful, you are dealing with a manipulator.

4. When they always want to remind you that you need them morethan they need you, that's a clear indicator of a manipulator. The "I don't need you but you need me" is a powerful tool the manipulator uses against the manipulatee. In a partnership, relationship or any other 'ship', both parties need each other equally. But when the other party always wants to prove that you need them morethan they need you, then that's a clear indicator that you are dealing with a manipulator. Be wise!

5. INTERMITTENT REINFORCEMENT is a powerful indicator that shows a person is manipulating you. Because the manipulator knows that people want what they cannot have (according to the law of human nature) he or she uses the intermittent reinforcement to manipulate the victim. Today, he or she is all loving, caring and supportive and tomorrow he or she withdraws all that stuff and leaves you guessing or wondering whether the love is gone or it's still there. Because you are not sure whether you have the person or not, you begin to do what the person want in order to be sure you have him or her.

For more knowledge on how to detect a manipulator, read THE ART OF MANIPULATION by B.R Sparkman. 

By James Patrick 

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